Tuesday, December 4, 2007

The Law According to ... ME

You didn't think I'd keep my big mouth shut now did ya? Here you go ... my two cents. I hope this list isn't too repetitive; I hope it's not too personal.

*Be original: Worry less about what went on before you, or what goes on down the street, and more about how you and your family can set itself apart. It’s OK to be different. It’s good to travel in unchartered territory. It’s just fine to try something and realize it’s not right for you. Find comfort in taking the long way around, if that is what you choose to do in life. Be proud that you took the risk.

*Work at something: To sit and watch TV is not enough. You need to have goals. Whatever your passion is, stay with it and make sure that the flame doesn't die until you say it's time.

*Be forgiving: To yourself, that is. It’s OK to not be a perfect wife, it’s OK to not be a perfect daughter, it’s OK to not be a perfect mother. The sooner you realize this the sooner you will find happiness, again.

*Be forgiving: To others, too. Forgive the uncle who left, the father who left, the grandparents who left, the mother who left and the best friend who left. The only one left standing with the pain is you … it’s time to let go. You’ll feel lighter when you do.

*Feel the emotions: Truly. If the day is bad, say it’s bad and feel it and then let it go. If you feel rejected or lonely or scared, let the feeling rise and fall with your breath and understand that emotions make up the human experience. Soon, the happiness and joy and rejoicing will ebb and flow back into your life.

*Be compassionate to the earth: Carefully watch your footsteps as you walk more, drive less; buy local, buy fresh; recycle; buy used. Whatever you do, think of Her. She is sustaining you.

*Don’t assume: You know what they say .... Don’t assume that people have what they need. Don’t assume that people are busy. Don’t assume that people have plans for Thanksgiving or Christmas. Don’t assume a new mother is happy. Don’t assume a friend is handling life fine.

*Ask questions: Dig deeper – into people’s lives, the news, God, the labels on the foods you buy, the small print on the documents you sign, all of it. Be conscious of what you are accepting into your life as the truth because it just might not be anything of the sort. Once you get the information, make up your mind as to what is true, for you.

*Stay awake
: Sure, you know the book by heart, the drive to work by heart, the lyrics to "Silent Night," but are you listening, are you really looking, and are you paying attention?

*Be OK with silence: Silence is space, and it’s OK to let a little come between you and yours. It’s OK to just wait for the words to come. That’s how our thoughts build, that’s how we reflect, that’s how we suddenly see what we’ve been missing.

Thank you for visiting today.

Did you like this blog post? Please consider subscribing here:

Subscribe in a reader


marta said...

That is lovely. A great read for the ending of my day. Thanks.

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

I was wondering where yours was! A beautiful rounding out of the lists. Thanks for sharing.

bella said...

A perfect ending.
Your list felt like you. I don't know how else to say it. I could just feel you in each word.
And "do not assume" This is a big one for me lately. And you captured it so well.

Not the Mama said...

Uh-huh, extending the deadline, huh? Uh-huh. I was wondering for who. ;-p

Lovely. I absolutely am so spot on w/ you about the environment one. That is a good one, and one I wish I had thought of for my own. That about assumptions making an ass of u and me is another. Good show, spot on.


InTheFastLane said...

Ask questions is one of my favorite. I always try to own my decisions. What a great list.

Shannon said...

Why are we so petrified of silence? (said the wise Alanis) Silence is space! I love that. And ask questions, yes. I'm such a bad one for assuming...assuming everyone else is happy and taken care of, that the smile they wear is genuine. I guess we could all practice being a litte more nosey with people in this disconnected world, eh?
Great list! (glad you finally posted) :-P

Shelli said...

I love your list. I especially like "don't assume."

Anonymous said...

Everyone leaves it behind. And then you get to leave it too. The pain that is. Nice point.

Mama Zen said...

Question everything - that's my favorite!

kc said...

That is a great list. I can't pick a favorite one but I like all of them. People should definately remember all of these.